Christian Dating Advice For Men

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Balancing our beliefs and desires is an ever acting characteristic in a humans life, we strive do this all the time.

We all struggle as men with our faith and urges; however, we can learn how to fit these two qualities together, by learning new perspectives.

It is natural to want to stay true to what we believe in. And for most Christian men, it is important that love occur within the boundaries of church.

Sex during marriage only is one of those boundaries.

Whether we follow it or not, there are validities of free will choices at work here and it is not for us to judge this belief.

Ancient philosophy informs us that partaking of sex with one another mingles a piece of our soul with the other and then continues with us forever.

The doctrine to keep your virginity for your wife is a wise one, when you consider this in some respect.

But this presents a unique challenge for those men out there who wish to stay true to their faith.

To enable yourself to continue attracting a woman, while fostering a relationship as you wait for marriage is achievable, however, you must take note of a few perspectives.

Sex is important after all, since marriage to someone sexually incompatible is a difficult union for anyone.

Here is some advice I’ve come up with specifically for men who face this issue of romance vs. faith.

1. Be clear about what you believe.

Faith guides us throughout our lifetime, is essential that you are clear in where you place your faith and beliefs.

We all have free will, the ability to think and reason, this is God’s gift to us. We look at all our options while deciding which path we each take. Some of us take it all in and keep what teaching reverberates within our higher self, while others embrace all of their churches teachings.

Your choice is your own; however, you must be clear of your belief and stand strong.

2. Trust in the plan God has for you.

You must trust in the fact that there is a woman out there you are meant to be with, and God has a plan to unite you with her.

Since you have free will, you have to take action while striving to take advantage of all opportunities presented to you. Remember, God can only do so much.

Learn to be proactive in finding the right woman for you.

Going out to meet women, getting to know them and dating are not things that just happen unexpectedly. You have to make it happen. Your beliefs help you stay on the plan for your life.

3. Know that Virginity is not mystical or precious.

You must understand that sex is a natural act, such as walking, talking and taking in air; it is something that we do. Sometimes the way some individuals consider virginity is confusing and unbalanced.

Man was meant to be fruitful and multiply. Sex is one of the greatest gifts we have from God. It is pleasurable because he meant for us to have sex.

So to look at your virginity as something sacred is not helpful. Virginity is meant to be lost – the real challenge is finding the right person to lose it to!

In the end, there is a spiritual aspect to sex. It’s the aspect that you find someone who makes you feel whole, alive, and loved. This is something separate from the act of sex, because this touches you on a deeper level.

Striving to achieve this type of closeness before marriage is most helpful in determining whether your physical aspects are in tune with a woman.

Do not be afraid to be intimate with women! Kissing, hugging, touching – this is all fine. But sharing your hopes and dreams, staring deep into her eyes and feeling her inner-most desires… that is where true intimacy stems from.

4. Women are real and do not belong on a pedestal.

Because of the importance places on sex in your faith, it might be easy to artificially inflate a woman’s importance.

You may think of a woman as some delicate flower goddess that is treated special and treasured.

But women are no different from me. God cut us both from the same cloth. To treat a woman as though she is special, just because you are sexually attracted to her, is not the same as respecting her.

Loving an ideal is easy, although it is difficult at times to love reality. Remember women too get cranky when hungry, awakens with morning breath and asks you to take out the garbage. This is reality.

Being human, we share similar characteristics. We must learn to love the reality of women rather than idealizing them.

When we see girls as people, just like us, we are able to get a clearer picture of whether or not we are meant to be with them.

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