Even If You Are Ugly, You Can Attract Women

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

One of the biggest issues I have to deal with when it comes to my students is the idea that they are too ugly to attract women.

Their insecurity comes from their various aspects and natures, such as some of them think they may be too:

Some guys think they’re too old.

They could be too fat.

They could be too short.

Some think they’re too ugly.

Many men feel hopeless when it comes to attracting the woman they desire, because of such feelings.

But lucky for all of us – this simply isn’t the case.

I want to take a moment and dispel a few attraction myths that hold men back from achieving success in their love life.

Myth #1 – Women are only attracted to good looking men.

Take a good look around and take not of the different types of men who date attractive women, and you can see this is not true.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

What’s the difference?

Although you cannot control whether you are good looking or not, however you do have control of how you present yourself. You do control how you groom and the clothes you wear, your hairstyle, how you smell and so on.

All these appearance factors contribute to “looking good.”

Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 – Women Think Just As Men Do

Naturally, you and I think that everyone else sees the same things the same way in which we see others.

Take for instance that huge pimple on your forehead, you think everyone notices it, although it is beneath the skin and no one knows it is there besides you.

Very few people if any will notice, while to you it is obvious.

Keep in mind that this method is generally in use when it comes to assessing any individual. Based on her looks you judge a woman, while sizing the woman up visually and then you decide if you think she is attractive, right.

So naturally, you assume women are going to size you up the same exact way.

WRONG.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

To women, attraction is based more around how men make them feel, rather than how the men look. That is why women are attracted to confidence and social status. They’re attracted to men who make them laugh. They’re attracted to men who are good at what they do. See how this works? Looks have very little to do with any of this.

Myth #3 – Women Notice Our Insecurities

Since we know our own selves, much better than anyone in the world ever will, we easily find and pay attention to our every single shortcoming, such as our receding hairline, weak chin, and our big ears and nose and so on.

No matter what it is, we see it!

Since we see our flaws, we naturally presume that others do too, when in fact the majority of people do not pay attention. Unless that is, they look especially for some characteristic to hold against you. Most fret over their own insecurities whatever they may be, without noticing yours.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

Keep in mind that insecurities and anxiety are completely unattractive.

In order for your positive qualities to outshine those that you find negative, you must always face every situation with a focus on your good qualities rather than any insecurity.

Myth #4 – Attractive Men Have It Easy

This is probably the biggest myth there is – that if a guy is good looking, girls will automatically flock to him.

Those men have their own set of problems with women. Clearly in the beginning being attractive physically does help, however they have the same issues as the rest of us.

Attraction is the art of magnifying the emotional connection that a woman feels for you, when you are around, this connection will only occur when you are around her, therefore to feel those feelings she will want you to be around her.

When a man matches the physical type of man, a woman prefers she naturally gravitates towards him, simply because those features appeal to her. Those feelings go away if she considers the man to be incompatible, a jerk or a bore.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.

Being a good looking man does not mean, you make women feel good. You simply need to learn how to mingle and interact with women.

This equation has a second factor and that is of sexual attraction.

This is the ability to turn a woman on, as well as making her feel good while you are around them.

This is where the aspect of seduction comes into play.

When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, she’s going to begin to see you in a whole new light – despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.

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