How To Meet Women

Author: Joseph Matthews
Website: www.artofapproaching.com

Here are a few easy to follow steps you can use to meet women that makes the process of meeting women fun and easy!

I have a question…

(And you have to be honest with me here!)

Do you find meeting women difficult? Is your fear keeping you from taking the actions you need to meet women, and causing you to feel lonely and helpless?

If so, don’t worry. I’m going to give you some incredible bits of advice you can use that will help you meet great women, and help you to take control of your love life and overcome your fear!

Meeting women should be a piece of cake. After all, that’s what you’re biologically programmed for, right?

Wrong.

Despite what you might think and what others may tell you, the fact is that us men are not born already knowing how to naturally meet and attract women. (Believe me, I wish that WAS the case, but its not, unfortunately.)

Meeting women is a LEARNED social behavior.

You have to LEARN how to talk to women, just like you have to learn how to speak out loud, or walk, or do math.

It’s a SKILL. And skills are learned, not instinctual.

So if you currently don’t know how to meet women, don’t worry, there is NOTHING wrong with you! You just haven’t learned enough to make meeting women something that’s comfortable and easy yet.

Unfortunately, there are many guys out there who’s fear of meeting women keeps them home alone on Friday night, and most of them will NEVER do what’s necessary to overcome that fear and meet women.

That’s because they don’t realize the power that fear has over them! And they rationalize their fear of meeting women by imagining all of the bad things that could happen.

Some guys have such a dim view of themselves as attractive men that they think a girl they’re interested in is going to laugh at them, or dismiss them, or tell them off. Maybe she’ll throw her drink in their face, or maybe they’ll get beaten up by her boyfriend!

Do you ever think of these as possibilities before you meet a girl? Because if you do, then you are actually TRAINING yourself to be scared and take no action to meet women.

Bottom line: You are practicing FAILURE.

The fact is – most of these irrational fears you’re worried about hardly ever happen in real life.

Those fears often come from experiences men suffered in junior high or middle school, when they were starting to become sexually aware and got rejected a few times – or they saw stuff like this happen on TV, and they think it actually applies to their own life.

It is highly unfortunate that so many men let irrational fears shape their beliefs and attitudes about how to meet and date women that they keep to this very day!

In contrast, there are other men out there who were fortunate enough to have positive experiences with girls early on in their development. These experiences helped banish irrational fears about meeting women, which helped set them up for a lot of success with women as they got older.

But here’s some good news – even if you weren’t a lucky “early bloomer,” you are still able to take control of any fear you may have about meeting women. Just because you didn’t have early success, doesn’t mean you can’t still be extremely successful with the ladies!

What you need to start doing right now is re-learn how to talk to women, and you’ll have to be willing to re-examine your current beliefs and attitudes that might be holding you back from success and change them to make meeting women easier.

Understandably, this is difficult for most guys to do. It’s one thing to say “I want to meet women,” but the hard part is taking action and DOING it! You need to ask yourself how badly do you want to improve, and if you’re willing to do the work.

Do you want to be the kind of guy who let’s every opportunity with women pass him by because he’s too scared to take it?

When you see an attractive woman you’d like to meet, just start talking to her, even if you don’t know what to say.

Ask her for directions. Ask for her opinion on something. Playfully tease her about something she’s wearing or something she’s doing.

At least make an effort to take an interest in her and be curious about who she is as a person. Pay her a genuine and sincere compliment! What do you have to lose?

Quickly settle on the what to say – don’t worry about the words you’re going to use – and go over there and talk to her. Don’t let more than three seconds pass by. Make the decision to act and follow through. (It will help you in the future if you memorize some canned material that matches your personality.)

Don’t try and measure success based on if you got her phone number or a date. Just the simple act of approaching a woman and talking to her makes you a winner, because you did something that 80% of the other men out there wouldn’t have done! And the more you can do that, the greater your chances of meeting that one special woman.

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