Top Product: Art Of Approaching
Website: www.artofapproaching.com
Author: Joseph Matthews
Company: Bizlancer Inc.
Rating: 4 1/2 out of 5
By the time I stumbled onto the Art Of Approaching, I had already been scammed a number of times in the Men’s Dating Advice market. I was bitter, angry, and ready to give up.
That’s why it was such a pleasant surprise when I found myself actually ENJOYING a book that was designed to teach me the most important skill a man can acquire – learning how to meet women.
Joseph Matthew’s and his book aren’t really as well known as the materials created by David DeAngelo, Mystery, or Neil Strauss, but in my opinion, Joseph Matthew’s is one of the best teachers for men who want to improve their success with women in the market.
Let me explain why I believe this…
The Instructor
As you might know, I place a lot of importance on the person who is actually teaching me the material. Some fraudulent “pick up gurus” like to use the excuse that it doesn’t matter who’s teaching it as long as you get results.
Well, in my experience, the guys who actually practice what they preach are the ones who can help you the most – because chances are they’ve been where you are and know how to find a solution to your problem. The fakers can’t do this.
And out of all the dating advice gurus I’ve come across, Mr. Matthews is, in my opinion, one of the most legitimate.
Mr. Matthew’s story is an incredible one. He is not a good looking guy by his own admission (I believe he claims to look like the lovechild of Tony Soprano). He’s fat, bald, ugly, and by his own admission “terrible with women.”
One of the first chapters in his book goes on to retell the painful (yet humorous) story of how he had an anxiety attack in college that lead him to the brink of suicide, but rather than kill himself, he resolved to cure his intense loneliness.
Through his teachings, you can tell Mr. Matthews is a very introspectful, honest, and heartfelt guy. He seems to have tackled every problem I’ve personally experienced, and then some – everything from low self esteem to wondering what to do with a girl now that he’s gotten her into bed.
His stories about his successes with women – some of them so attractive, he himself can’t believe he got them – are humorous AND informative.
I couldn’t help but feel like Joseph Matthews is the type of guy I could be friends with, hang out with, and learn from, all at the same time. This alone, makes his teachings far more important than most of the people I’ve come across in this market.
The Course
As its title suggests, in this excellent book Joseph Matthews has created the most complete book on approaching women written to date. As Mr. Matthew’s puts it: If you can’t approach a woman, you can’d do anything else!
Because of it’s focus on how to meet women, this is actually the best way to START learning how to pick up and seduce girls, since it focuses so heavily on that first (and some would argue hardest) step.
But what was surprising to me was that the book was actually much more than just a guide on approaching. It actually covers everything you will need to go beyond the approach and into the bedroom.
The Art of Approaching is now in its 3rd edition (Mr. Matthews seems to update the course regularly to keep it current, something which can’t be said for most other advice authors) and the latest incarnation of the Art Of Approaching goes on to explore:
- The Art of Relationship Skills
- The Art of Belief
- The Art of Body Language
- The Art of Confidence
- The Art of Approaching
- The Art of Dating
- The Art of Flirting
- The Art of Storytelling
- The Art of Being Social
- The Art of Seduction
As you can see, not a single aspect of seduction and pick up is skimped over. I found Mr. Matthew’s chapter on Confidence to be exremely insightful and helpful to me personally, since that’s something I (and Mr. Matthews) has struggled with in the past.
Another fantastic chapter in the book covers the art of flirting. Now, you wouldn’t typically think that flirting would be an important skill to learn, but the way Mr. Matthew’s explains it, if you don’t know how to flirt, you’re going to have a hard time generating attraction!
All this information rounds the book out to a very complete 342 pages.
Despite all the different subjects that are covered, the core of the course is still about approaching women. About 1/3rd of the book is devoted to this subject, and none of it seems like filler.
The book is on the longer side for most seduction e-books I have read, and this could be tough for those of you slow readers or those with short attention spans. But it is a faster read than you might think because Mr. Matthews has written in many personal stories which are both instructional and entertaining at the same time.
(This is SUCH a relief, because even good ebooks, like David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating, can often be very dry and hard to read.)
The fact that the book illustrates so many of its principles through the eyes and experiences of Mr. Matthews himself makes it very unique among the books out there. You get to really understand the personality of the author and I think most readers will empathize with him because he shares the lows he came from when he had no skills with women and was very overweight, to how he overcame these limitations by learning the skills he teaches in the book.
A key message I got was that if Mr. Matthews himself could overcome these limitations, than anyone can by following his example.
But the book is not one dimensional despite this personal perspective, as there are many cool examples of the experiences of students that Mr. Matthews has taught, and what’s more there are many stories relating his own experiences as a student learning from some of the top ladies men in the world like Neil Straus (author of The Game), Mystery, and more.
So when you get The Art of Approaching, you are getting the combined knowledge of not only Mr. Matthews, but other masters as well. Some of what you will learn includes:
- Tons of great opener types like joke, opinion, role play, online, direct, situational, compliment openers and more
- The key questions you must ask yourself to succeed
- An extremely in depth examination of body language, both how to display it and read it
- Secret of eye contact
- Best ways and places to meet women
- The fish and hook method of meeting and seducing women
- The two types of flirting and 11 guidelines for how to flirt effectively, plus the secret weapon of innuendo
- The importance of stories and how to tell great stories
- How to develop a great social network and use it to meet tons of women
- 6 tips for how to influence people and women
- and much more…
What is really cool about all this information in the book is how Mr. Matthews ties it all together in stories of his own conquests. The final chapter of the book ties all of what you learn together in the personal story of how he seduces a beautiful model from New York and finally seals the deal when she comes to LA and visits him.
All throughout the book you get the sense that you are reading something by someone who really knows what he is talking about and has devoted a lot of time not just to learning the techniques, but the philosophy behind it all.
There are points in the book where Mr. Matthews goes back hundreds of years to explain how and why women were prized for their virginity and how that still effects their behavior presently, and also talks about how religion has shaped things in the way we think that aren’t very useful for doing well with women and should be questioned, etc.
Overall, this was the ONE book I was impressed with the most.
The Company
I also found the way Mr. Matthews does business to be quite honest and above the board.
I had no issues downloading the course after the purchase, but my friend Bill had a problem with his connection. When we contacted support – easily accessible through a “contact us” link on the front page – we got a reply within the first 12 hours from his customer support staff helping us get Bill his product.
We even went back and “pretended” we lost the course in a computer crash to see how this would be handled by the company. Customer Support immediately gave us access to the course again after supplying our order information. It’s nice to know that if anything ever got screwed up, we could still get access to the course.
Refunds were handled promptly as well. Yes, even though I did enjoy the book and thought it was great, I still asked for a refund just to test and see how it was handled. Fortuneately, The Art Of Approaching staff seems to think it’s best to give people their money back when they ask for it. Always a nice touch.
The company clearly states their terms of service and privacy policy, so should you ever want to know where the company stands, you can find out.
Over-all, the way Mr. Matthews conducts business seems to be quite professional.
The Bad
Though I do enjoy this course and this company, there are a few things that nagged me enough not to give it a full rating of 5 stars.
The first is that you get a LOT of email from Mr. Matthews, who sends out a newsletter twice daily. This can get annoying after a while, but the content of the newsletters is good and always helpful. However, after getting the course, I didn’t feel I needed all the tips and didn’t like seeing my inbox clogged up. You can, however, easily unsubscribe from the emails. But still, it’s annoying.
I also found a few type-os in the book. Nothing too bad, it still reads well and has a professional appearance, but it’s a minor annoyance of mine.
The size of the book is also worrisome, because reading such a long book on the computer can be troublesome at times. You are able to print it out for easy reading without issue, however 300+ pages is a lot of printer inc. I wish Mr. Matthews gave the option of receiving a physical book. But again, this is a minor annoyance.
The Verdict
This is a MUST have course.
During my tests, and the tests of my friends Bill and Larry who help me evaluate these courses, we got the best results from Mr. Matthew’s teachings.
Following his “Bootcamp” instructions laid out in the course, we went from meeting 1-2 girls a night to meeting 12-15. Not all the approaches went well, but they became easier than they had been in the past.
Before long, all three of us got enough confidence to start getting phone numbers of the girls we were meeting and actually getting them out on dates.
After struggling for MONTHS with other courses, this was like a breath of fresh air for all three of us. Going out to meet chicks actually became FUN once we started applying what we learned in the Art Of Approaching.
Using the lines laid out in the course will get you results, but the best results come from doing the confidence building exercises laid out by Mr. Matthews, to help you meet and date the women you desire.
I would also recommend getting the Advanced course if you can afford it. The basic course is $39.95, but the Advanced course is a bit pricey ($147). But it has a lot more supplemental material that is worth getting – including video tutorials that explain some of Mr. Matthew’s more advanced concepts.
That said, the advanced course isn’t necessary to get results. Even just getting the basic course is worth the money. But I got a lot more out of Mr. Matthew’s advanced tactics.
If you would like to check out The Art Of Approaching yourself, click the link below:
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If you yourself aren’t getting the kind of results you want with women, and in specific if you want to improve your ability to approach them effectively, then you owe it to yourself to check out this great course.
Think you are too overweight, not good looking or rich enough? Joseph Matthews managed to learn to do well with women despite these kinds of obstacles, and tells you step by step how to do the same thing yourself. It won’t happen overnight, but it will happen faster if you get The Art of Approaching for yourself now!
Stay safe,
Jim Jones
Top Product: Double Your Dating
Website: www.doubleyourdating.com
Author: David DeAngelo
Company: David DeAngelo Communications Inc.
Rating: 4 out of 5
Double Your Dating has been around for a while, and it’s generally considered to be the best ebook there is on dating tips for men on the market today. Here is my review of the Double Your Dating eBook.
The Basics
Title: Double Your Dating – What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women
Length: 90 pages
Adobe PDF Format (compatible with both PCs and Macs)
Table of Contents
Part 1: How To Think About Success With Women
Chapter 1: Women Don’t Make Sense
Chapter 2: How I Discovered What Works With Women
Part 2: How To Communicate With Women
Chapter 3: How To Develop A Personality That Is Irresistible To Women
Chapter 4: How To Use Communication And Humor To Attract Women
Chapter 5: On Looks and Body Language
Part 3: Exactly What, When, and How
Chapter 6: The Basics of Style and Class, Plus More On How To Fascinate Women
Chapter 7: Where and How To Meet Women
Chapter 8: Getting Physical
Chapter 9: Keeping Her Attracted To You, Or “How To Have A Long Term Relationship.”
Introduction
Released in 2001, the Double Your Dating ebook is widely considered to be the best dating system for men available on the market. Before Double Your Dating hit the internet, the only options available for men looking to improve their skills with women was a newsgroup, the occasional message board, and hypnosis-based seduction products, none of which were quite acceptable in the mainstream, a trend which Double Your Dating was the first to buck.
David DeAngelo, a former member of the underground “seduction community,” who used to post to the Cliff’s List Seduction Newsletter under the pseudonym Sisonpyh, discarded all other methods being taught at the time and developed his own idea about what attracts women, and encapsulated his findings in this ebook.
His basic philosophy can be boiled down to the now well-accepted notion of “Cocky and Funny,” a phrase David DeAngelo and the success of his ebook and seminars has been able to popularize.
The philosophy behind “Cocky and Funny” is meant to teach men how to play the part of the “Coquette” with women. Coquettes are people who are able to orchestrate a back-and-forth movement between hope and frustration. They bait with the promise of reward – the hope of physical pleasure, happiness, fame by association, power – which always seems to prove elusive; yet this form of “dangling the carrot” in front of their targets only makes women pursue them more.
A Coquette seems totally self-sufficient: they do not need women, they seem to say, and their narcissism proves to be devilishly attractive. Women want to conquer them, but they hold the cards. The strategy of the Coquette is never to offer total satisfaction. The alternating heat and coolness of the Coquette keeps women nipping at their heels.
For most men, the art of being a Coquette is elusive. Before Double Your Dating came along, this skill was either reserved for men who came about this attitude naturally, or men who were abusive assholes. What David DeAngelo did with Double Your Dating was break the art of Coquetting down to a teachable structure that all men could learn to use when dealing with women – something no one else up to that time had been able to do.
The Good
The book is very well-written and professional looking. The font size is normal, so you get a lot of info per page (ie: The font isn’t ballooned up to help fill space and only make the book seem longer than it is). You truly get 90 pages worth of info in this document.
The book is also structured in an easy to read and logical progression. It starts off with a good amount of theory and philosophy, and moves into more concrete techniques designed to teach the reader what to do with women. Compared to the spastic, amateurish, and dis-jointed writing of other seduction products on the market, this book reads like a Godsend. No doubt David DeAngelo had the book edited to read this well.
David DeAngelo also shares a great deal of personal insights and experiences with the reader. One of the best examples of this is found in Chapter 8 of the book, “Getting Physical,” where David D goes into great detail about how he goes from being on a date with a woman to getting down to business (if you know what I mean). This is a great chapter because lots of guys don’t know how to escalate to the physical aspect of a date, but here, David D. shares a first-person example of how he does it in a clear and decisive way. Here’s an example from page 87:
This is a big piece of the puzzle that I’ve figured out… I used to do all kinds of massages and other stuff, but I now use the simple hair stroke test. If they like their hair stroked, they are at VERY LEAST going to be making out with me in short order, period. I’ll occasionally do a hand massage here, or a little neck massage, but next I pull her close to me and cuddle with here… and then land the killer.
Probably the best part of the book is Section 2, which encapsulates the chapters “How To Develop A Personality That Is Irresistible To Women,” “How To Use Communication And Humor To Attract Women,” and “On Looks and Body Language.” This entire section, which encompasses about 37 pages of the book, deals with nothing but strategies on how to attract a woman.
David D breaks down the six things he believes women find attractive. They are:
1. Means (wealth, possessions, gifts to them or providing for them)
2. Power (influence, leadership, safety)
3. Fame
4. Looks (including height)
5. Exclusivity (royalty, already married, hard to get, affiliation)
6. Personality (humor, creativity, romance, intelligence, mystique, etc.)
David D. then goes on to focus on the fact that though 1-5 are out of your control for the most part, number 6 is something you do have complete control over and you can use to your advantage when getting women to be attracted to you. He then goes on to break down personality traits that women find the most attractive. They are:
1. Humor
2. Intelligence and Creativity
3. Education
4. Class and Culture
5. Dominant
6. Thoughtfulness
7. Notices Details
8. Preditcably Unpredictable
9. Enthusiastic, Fun, Happy
10. Adventurous
11. Aggressive
12. Confident/Cocky
13. Expertise
14. Attention
15. Challenging
16. Charming
17. Romantic Imagination and Perspective
18. Good Body Language
19. Sexual Mastery
With that out of the way, David D goes on to explain how you can combine all these traits into your communication and how that can attract women to you. Here’s an excerpt to give you an idea of what David D recommends:
1. Never give a woman a direct answer… unless the answer is NO. This is a big one. If she says “Can we sit here?” I say “No, let’s sit in this one next to it” or if she says “How do you like my dress?” I say “Well, I think that I like it… just give me a few minutes to see it on you” or if she says “Call me tomorrow” I say “No. You call me tomorrow… common, you want me and you know it” Get it?
2. If she complains about you or doesn’t like something, turn it up a notch and do it more. If she says to me “I don’t really like it when you say that” I say “Well then you might want to leave, because I say it a lot” Get it?
3. Women are CONSTANTLY testing to see if they can get you to comply with them, and as soon as you do, they hit the road (or marry you). This took me years to see and understand, but the fact is that when you’re dealing with a powerful, hot woman, she will do all different kinds of things that make no sense at all logically, but all the sense in the world when you understand her mindset. Hot women can have anything they want. What they want is a challenge… something that keeps their interest. Here it comes… If a woman can have anything she wants anytime she wants it, then WHY THE HLL DO GUYS THINK THAT THEY’RE GOING TO BE INTERESTING BY DOING THE SAME THING THAT EVERY OTHER GUY HAS DONE? Duh. Hey, I used to think this way… but then I got a clue. Now, I pay very careful attention, and never let her have what she wants. If she says “Kiss me” I say “No” if she says come over to my house I say “I’m busy right now, I’ll come over later” if she says “I want you so bad, please make love to me” I say “well, I think you need to wait a little longer, and besides, I’m not finished kissing you” Get it? I NEVER give a woman exactly what she asks for… EVER!
4. Always send mixed signals. Tell her I want to be friends, and kiss her. Tell her that what she just did was unacceptable, then go kiss her. Spank her if she does something nice. Also, respond differently to the same thing. For example, one time if she comes over and sits on my lap, I kiss her. Another time I push her off… get it? Never be predictable… NEVER.
But by far, the best stuff that David DeAngelo has to offer in the book is his material on how to tease women. This is really where Double Your Dating shines. Most guys fall into the trap of supplicating to women and being “too nice.” This will usually land you in the dreaded “let’s just be friends” zone.
But when you know how to properly tease a woman, you are able to create sexual tension in your interaction with her, and the use of Cocky/Funny, alternating between hot and cold, just intensifies that tension before it reaches it’s inevitable outcome.
Here’s an example of how David D likes to tease women:
When I first met one particular girl, I took her hand when she got into the car and held it for a few seconds… then took it away saying “No hand holding this early” as if it were her idea… then at lunch, I put out my hand for her to take it, and then when she went to take it, I moved it before she touched me… then did it again… and again saying “No, really…”
Finally, after the meal was finished, I reached out for her hand and she wouldn’t take mine because I had teased her so much, so I actually grabbed her hand and held it and massaged it. This was teasing and teasing. And then when she finally gave up I gave it to her.
Then, when I gave her a hug later on, she kissed me on the cheek/neck a couple of times and I accused her of kissing me a lot etc. (Idea is that she’s into me and she’s the aggressor). One part of this is me doing something (holding her had) and then accusing her of doing it (“no hand holding this early”).
This kind of behavior, sending mixed messages, and flirting doesn’t really make sense to most men, but to women it’s magic.
David D also places a lot of emphasis on being funny. He’s fond of saying that no matter what shortcomings you have, how ugly you may be, that if you can get a woman to laugh consistently, you’ll get her attracted to you.
He goes into detail on how to be funny around women, along with how your voice should sound, what your body language should be like, and the signs to look for to see if a woman is interested in you. He even goes into a few “Cold Reading” methods as well.
He rounds out the book by detailing how to meet women, and how to keep her attracted to you and have a long term relationship.
The Bad
Though the book does read professionally, there are the occasional grammar mistakes, such as missing words or wrong tenses, but they’re so few and far in between, it’s not that big of a deal, and compared to the atrocious writing in other ebooks, not something to really complain about.
One drawback I found when reading Double Your Dating was that sometimes David’s more philosophical sections got a little hard to read. This may have just been my interest wanning, or my ADD acting up, but I consistently found myself skimming over certain parts to get to some of the meatier techniques he lays out in the book.
There are a few things David espouses that I have found, through personal experience, to be wrong. For instance, in the section of the book that teaches men to be funny, he states:
Don’t smile too much, and don’t laugh at your own jokes very often. When you smile or laugh, it releases the tension. If you can keep a straight face, the joke stays funnier longer.
I’ve found that women like it when you smile. I smile very often around women. Smiling is probably the easiest thing to do to make yourself look attractive and give off a good vibe. To read Double Your Dating, you may come away with the impression that you always want to come off as serious around a woman.
His other philosophy of “never give a woman a direct answer unless it’s no” can also be a real deal breaker. I have had some real bad experiences using this tactic. It might be okay to skirt the answer one or two times, but any more than that and it’s gonna stop being cute to the girl and start getting annoying, to the point where they think you’re hiding something from them (which is not a good thing if you’ve just met the girl). Giving women direct answers won’t be the end of the world. If you want to play around a bit and avoid the question one or two times, that’s fine, but never more than that.
In the book, David D also recommends never asking for a woman’s phone number and going for her email address instead, the idea behind this being that women may be hesitant to give out their numbers, because of the dating stigma attached to it, but that they are cool with giving out their email because it’s not as personal, and that you can have an easier time getting a date through this “under the radar” method.
Personally, I’ve found this method to be hit or miss. I usually have better luck asking for numbers than emails. Sending a girl an email is the equivalent of leaving a voice message on their answering machine. It’s out of your hands and up to her to contact you. Not good. Women who don’t check their email often can sit on that for days and by the time they get to it, they may have forgotten you or lost interest. With the number, you can keep calling without leaving a message and catch them on the phone at your convenience. This isn’t to say email and instant messaging are bad forms of communication, but I tend to look at them as secondary to phone numbers.
I also found the section of the book that deals with approaching women quite light. David D does give some good tactics on meeting women, but if you have a fear of approaching or rejection, you’ll find this chapter to be lacking.
Speaking of chapters that are lacking, the final chapter on relationships is only a mere page and a half long, and doesn’t really go into any detail like he did with the attraction stuff. To be fair, though, Double Your Dating isn’t a book about relationship maintenance, it’s about how to meet women. But a substantial chapter on this subject would have been preferable to the 2 or 3 paragraphs David D throws out at the end of the book.
Also – one of the biggest complaints I have about the course is that when you buy it, you’re encouraged to subscribe to David DeAngelo’s interview series, which is $19.95 per month.
Now, some people may not want to commit to $19.95 a month, but you actually have to tell them you DON’T WANT THIS option when ordering. I found myself buying the product and accidentally ordering it because I didn’t notice the option to opt out.
Not only that, but the interview series David DeAngelo puts out isn’t all that great. He offers very little advice on his own, and the people he interviews more often than not are fakers or lamers who have no business giving advice on the subject.
A lot of the interviews are incredibly boring as well. I would definitely recommend not getting this option if you do get the course.
The Company
David DeAngelo’s company is quite professional. You don’t have to worry about not getting a refund or recieving your product after your order. Their customer support is top notch.
They also have their terms and privacy policy clearly accessible from the front page of their website, which is always a good sign.
The Verdict
Definitely Recommend.
Despite a few short comings here and there, Double Your Dating is a fantastic guide for guys looking to increase their success with women. It really lays out some fantastic inner game concepts and solid attraction techniques. Some guys who have real problems with social interactions may not get as much out of this book as average guys, but then again, it’s not written for them. David DeAngelo wrote this book for the “average guy” who populates the mainstream marketplace.
When you go to a Double Your Dating seminar, you will often see normal looking guys who are just looking to do better with women, rather than pathetic, anti-social virgins you may find at other similar events.
Some people argue that Double Your Dating isn’t a complete system, but the ebook is fairly complete in terms of how to attract a woman to you. It may not be the most detailed book on the subject, but it lays out all the basics in a clear and easy to understand way. If you only buy the ebook, as opposed to the multitude of other products with the Double Your Dating banner attached to them, you’ll get a lot out of it.
I highly recommend this book to anybody who’s looking to improve their social life and meet more women. Especially if you’re just starting out with getting this area of your life under control and you don’t know where to start. Every veteran in the seduction community has the Double Your Dating ebook as part of his collection, and you should too.
You can download the Double Your Dating ebook by clicking on the link below:
Check Out Double Your Dating Here!
I hope you enjoyed this review and found it helpful.
Stay safe,
Jim Jones
Top Product: Secrets Of The Alpha Man
Website: www.alphaconfidence.com
Author: Carlos Xuma
Company: DD Publications
Rating: 3 1/2 out of 5
Carlos Xuma is another dating guru who’s been active in courting mainstream attention. He’s not as mainstream as David DeAngelo, but he’s not as obscure as Joseph Matthews either. He falls somewhere in between.
I’ve checked out a lot of Mr. Xuma’s dating products. Most of them are quite average – at least in my opinion. But one of his products really caught my attention as being really, really good. And that was his “Secrets Of The Alpha Man” course.
Carlos is very big on teaching guys how to be “Alpha.” In fact, this is the focus of most of his products. But this course in particular moves beyond the realm of “being alpha” to getting your inner game where it needs to be to naturally attract women.
Carlos Xuma is great for teaching inner game and for teaching principles to apply in real life. He is not going to help you be cool like David DeAngelo does. He is not going to help you be smooth like Mystery does. What he is going to do is he is going to tell you how to lead a life where there is no emptiness…nothing missing inside.
You will then be able to naturally attract women without technique but in a low key way. Think of it like this… Mystery gives you a house… David Deangelo gives you the furniture, and Mr. Xuma gives you the foundation… although Joseph Matthews also give you some great foundation on inner game as well, but not as in-depth as this course does.
Where Mr. Xuma really shines is that he doesn’t worry about anyone else – his focus is on your own thoughts, feelings, emotions, and desires. To him, being “alpha” is about getting what you want, not acting like a jerk.
The Good
Secrets Of The Alpha Man is a good course. It’s a digital course, so you’ll be downloading the content. It consists of a 390 page ebook, a bonus ebook, seven hours of audio, and four pre-recorded coaching sessions.
The meat of the course is the ebook and the audios. The coaching calls and bonus ebook are just filler, for the most part.
The ebook is very in depth and covers how to change and cultivate your attitude to be more attractive, and how to supercharge your confidence to achieve anything you want.
Mr. Xuma’s inner game insights are extremely profound. This course really challenges you to dig so deep that that at times it’s hard to get through the actual material!
In my tests, I found that after doing Mr. Xuma’s exercises, women actually responded to me differently. I got better reactions, pick up became easier, and I became more confident all around.
My two compatriots, Larry and Bill, got similar results. Though Larry really applied the material, Bill was not as active in this course as Larry and I, and didn’t get as much out of it as we did.
However, the changes in our interactions with women because of our newfound “alphaness’ was noticeable enough to attribute the success to Mr. Xuma and his teachings.
The Bad
Not everything in this course is powerful or effective. A lot of is is what I can only call “psychological mumbo-jumbo” and filler. That’s not to say there isn’t good stuff in the course, just that you have to separate the wheat from the chaff in order to get to that good stuff.
Probably the biggest drawback to the course is Mr. Xuma himself. I find his speaking patterns and voice slow and hard to follow. While listening to the course, I would often zone out. Perhaps Mr. Xuma should hire someone with a better voice to record his future courses, since all three of us – Bill, Larry, and myself – had a hard time paying attention to his voice.
I also think this course is slightly overpriced. It clocks in at a hefty $147. The Art Of Approaching advanced course has the same price tag, but you get WAY more material and a much better value in that instance than you do here.
However, Mr. Xuma does offer a three payment plan, which makes the course a little more affordable, and you can get your first 30 days for free to try it out. But still, I’d say a more reasonable price is $97, based on what you get.
The Verdict
Recommended.
This course won’t give you the latest and greatest techniques to pick up girls, like The Art Of Approaching or Double Your Dating will, but it does give you an important aspect of success with women – confidence building.
That said, the reason it doesn’t get a higher rating is because both The Art Of Approaching and Double Your Dating also give you a good fundamental basis for building your confidence, all at a much cheaper price.
However, this course does allow you to go deep int he confidence building process, and it does give you results.
So if you’re looking for that extra edge to get you success with women, Secrets Of The Alpha Man is where you’ll find it.
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Jim Jones
My name is Jim Jones. I started this site to help other guys, like me, who have struggled with women to find the best resources to improve their love life. There are too many scam artists out there trying to steal your hard-earned money by promising you pie-in-the-sky results with no proof to back them up. Like most guys, I was suckered in by promises of “easy lays” and “fast seduction” methods. But the truth is, 90% of the courses out there DON’T WORK! And I’ve spent lots of time and money finding this out the hard way.